Did someone hurt you? Here is how to approach

Several years back a friend of mine hurt me by saying that I am not good enough to crack admission at premier business schools in India.

In fact, he went on to say that I am good for nothing and started comparing me with others in our network only to say that others are far better than me.

Another friend, well at least until then, said that if he had to spend more time with me and talk to me, his communication skills will impact badly.

One more classmate even cut me short while I was asking him a doubt by saying I am not supposed to disturb him because I am not as serious as he was regarding my studies.

I can go on and on with such silly stories.

Even though I call them silly, they were quite impactful on me back then. I got over them eventually but it took me a long time and was not very easy.

With these stories, I want to say that I know how it feels to get hurt by others.

Emotional pain is as bad as physical pain but most people do not understand this even to this day.

How to approach if you are hurt by others

For every problem, there could be multiple ways to approach the solution.

One approach that seems to work for me, based on my experience, is to just focus on what I can do about the situation.

Think of what is in my control and what is not.

What is said by others is not in my control. How I choose to process those words and what kind of reaction I will give in response is completely under my control.

Looking at our sphere of influence is a great approach to help ourselves handle what happens to us.

Let me know what you think of this approach and if you are interested to understand more about the image shown above you can read this article.

This can be a great self-coaching tool and can also be used to help others.

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